Arguments

Arguments have the power to break people to bits within seconds. Arguments are no doubt an evil force waiting to grab someone and ensnare them into its trap. However, they can also build relationships, if settled correctly.

I know I can get into heated arguments and yell nonstop at people, blinded by anger and unwilling to reach a conclusion. I talk back, I scream, I say all these things I don't mean with the hope that I can get some sort of regret or sympathy from the opposer. Oh I know it all too well. I say I'll learn from past arguments, but it never happens. I'm a mold that needs a lot of shaping. But it seems I always look at my mistakes rather than the progress I've already made.

Anyways, how can you reach a peaceful conclusion with all this hatred and yelling going on? Well both people need to realize they're both acting stupid. Seems kind of crude, but it's true. In an argument, I know I'm acting stupid, yet I continue to try to show dominance in the altercation. 

Next, deal with the issue with talking, not yelling. If someone gives you sass, be patient. We should never be quick to get angry.

Finally – apologize.

All these things I've said are beliefs that I have in my mind, yet I struggle to follow. In arguments, I tend to just forget about all these things. No surprise considering I basically inherited my temper. But nonetheless I must learn from mistakes and try harder to make sure my relationship with whomever is not permanently scarred by unforgiving anger.

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